Finding Happiness in the Monotony of Contentment

Sometimes, I think it’s important to give yourself a little reminder of all the things you have to be happy about, like good friends and delicious tea.  Between the fear and monotony of job hunting, the exhaustion of a waitressing job five to seven days a week at two different restaurants, bills piling up, and broken window latches, it’s easy to lose sight of happiness and settle for just content on most days.


With all the things pulling us down, it’s so so difficult to lift ourselves up and put a smile on our face each day.  But I’m a firm believer that it’s impossible to make it through this life without a little bit of happiness, and a whole lot of hope.

Let’s face it – things could be a hell of a lot simpler.  For the most part, we do a lot of this to ourselves with 9-5 jobs, bills, and a one-track mind on the next step.  So much of the time, we forget to pay attention to the here and now, to the beautiful moment we’re in and the success we had today. I certainly know I’m guilty of this.  Hell – within five minutes of grasping my diploma in my hand, the smile was wiped off my face and replaced by the utter terror of “what the hell do I do now?” And I could see that same exact fear on the faces of my now former-classmates sitting all around me. And just in case I didn’t reach that terror on my own, I get asked “so what are you doing now” by well-meaning people almost daily.

Don’t get me wrong – the future is important.  I know that I have to figure out what comes next, and the people asking me about it are only trying to help the best way they know how.  But as a society, we have a one-track mind on monetary and job-related success.  Those are great things!  But they aren’t the only things.  And I think I’ve come to the conclusion that if I did have to pick one thing, it’d be happiness.

I may be the last person who should be saying this given my sordid history with happiness (a story for another day…should I ever get the courage to tell it), but “just content” is no way to live, and starting today I want to make sure that I never (or…usually don’t) forget that.

Starting today, I want to trade “content” for “happy.”

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  • Kelly Louise

    and this post right here is a prime example of why i fell in love with your blog. i felt like i was just reading some of my own thoughts. even in my post today i mentioned that i want to “keep getting brighter”. why is just being genuinely happy so damn hard? why do we have to force ourselves to choose happiness?
    ugh, life. lol

  • Jackie @ Our Nashville Life

    I think about things like this a lot—like how much I take for granted. I think how just a little over 50 years ago, people who weren’t fighting in WW2 where at home and doing things like rationing their coffee grounds because anything you could do to help your country, your people, you would do it. Now if I don’t get my coffee, from a drive thru, in a timely manner, it’s upsetting. I think for several generations we’ve been told that we’re “deserving” of certain things and now we’ve become content and we expect these things.

    It kind of sucks.

  • Jenn Wells

    Hear hear! *Raises wine glass to toast*

    I think a lot of people are guilty of this. We’re so focused on being busy (I’m no different) and on obtaining all the experiences and achieving all the things we’re supposed to or that will make us feel like we’ve had a full life, that we totally forget to stop and enjoy it. Occasional time outs to think and appreciate all we’ve done and been already are definitely called for.

    But we’ve got a heads up, because we’re thinking about this now and not when it’s too late, right?

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