Jul 31, 2014

Finding Honesty in Blogging


We've all heard it before - blogging brings out the best in us.  These blogs we spend time reading each day are written through rose-tinted glasses, and that's absolutely on purpose.  Nobody wants to tell a world full of people they don't know the nitty gritty not-so-great details of their lives, and I know I'm definitely guilty of that.

Like I'm sure most of you, I'm not entirely comfortable with a tell-all - something I'm so good at in life, where I tell my friends everything (whether or not they really want to hear it) and am almost entirely incapable of keeping secrets about my own life.

Maybe it's that for me, this place isn't a diary...at least not the traditional hide-under-your-bed-with-a-lock-on-it kind of diary.  For me, this place is one where I come to share, not my life, but my writing, my inspiration, my attempts at what I hope is art.

I want to be honest, to tell you all the truth, but only part of it.  It's not that I'm perfect, or that I want to pretend I am.  Nothing about my life could be construed as "perfect."  I've struggled with anxiety, doubt, failure.  But that's not what I come here for.

Maybe it's just that, for me at least, this blog is a place to build a community of people with ideals, with beliefs, with independence and moral value running through them.  To me, the details of my every-day-life don't necessarily factor in, and most days, they don't have to.

I don't want you to think that I've got everything figured out (because I absolutely don't), or that this is the image I want to project.  I just want different things to come from this blog than the details of my life.  I don't want to lie here (and I don't), but maybe telling the absolute every-single-detail truth doesn't need to happen to ensure I'm not lying.

And if I'm being honest - which I truly want to be - I don't think that's a bad thing.  So what about you - what's the most important thing to you in blogging?

10 comments :

  1. I love this post! I never fully thought about it that way and yet this really makes sense. Even when it's reading other people's blog - I personally feel uncomfortable reading their deepest thoughts, like I was reading their diary. I like to be inspired by blogs!

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  2. What a great post. Honesty is SO important in blogging. Posts like these build your credibility as a blogger so much!

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  3. I'm ok with sharing the imperfect parts of life - but I think if I don't have a solution or a lesson learned - what's the benefit. So sometimes I hold off until there is value behind the imperfect situations life hands us!

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  4. I've never dove into writing about anything that goes beyond the first layer of my life. I've never had to hit on anything too personal yet, so while I'm absolutely honest about my life, it'll be interesting to see how much I'm comfortable sharing with the world

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  5. yeah i mostly like to keep my blog a positive place but that sometimes means not sharing it all. and i think that's ok. i don't claim my life is perfect but just choose to share the happier moments :)

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  6. As a personal blogger, I always try my best to blog honestly about my life and experiences; of course, I won't share everything, just things I feel comfortable sharing. I've received good feedback about my honesty which prompts me to continue. I believe that if you're a personal blogger and you can't share some of your hardship on your blog, I just feel like... it's a facade.

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  7. The most important thing for me in blogging is probably to maintain my personal privacy. I agree with what you said - my blog isn't my diary and I'm not going to share my daily life at all, just some thoughts and experiences as ways to frame larger issues people can relate to. I've never really thought of it as building a community, but I guess that's what I'm actually doing.

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  8. I don't hide much on my blog at all. Apart from the obvious location, personal details etc but in terms of what I'm dealing with, its free game. I'm sure someone, somewhere is dealing with the exact same issue as me and they might just need someone to voice it for them.

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  9. I love your outlook and totally agree. And I don't think we have anything to apologize for - your blog is what you make it. "Maybe it's just that, for me at least, this blog is a place to build a community of people with ideals, with beliefs, with independence and moral value running through them." <--- YES. Thanks for your honesty! ;)

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  10. Love this outlook and totally agree. Maintaining my privacy and protecting the privacy of my loved ones is the most important thing for me in blogging. I think in today's age of instant gratification where everything is on the internet, we tend to forget about the idea of privacy. Thank you for taking the time to write this post; this was just what I needed to read; I've been struggling to find the balance between being real and not revealing too much that I feel uncomfortable. Recently, I find myself asking, "Will it help my readers?" That always seems to help me get a grip on what stays in the Moleskine and what makes it onto the internet.

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