Friday Favorites, vol. 21


// I love this post on How to be a Heroine that Marielle and Katie wrote.  You know the type of heroine they’re talking about – the Hollywood-made woman who exists solely to be saved by the real hero – a man.  And while we’re on the subject of heros,  Shannon wrote a fantastic post on representation and how important it is, on the basis that in 30,000 years of the media-popularized hero, how many females have you seen?

// Especially as bloggers, social media has become a huge part of all of our lives.  I know I check my Twitter from morning till night, including sometimes in the middle of the night when I wake up and realize I have five notifications waiting for me.  So I love this social media detox that Daisy suggested to help revive ourselves and our online lives.  Not only do I think this will make me a happier, more present person, but also it’s a great way of making myself schedule posts in advance, and work on blogging-related social media when I have to.

// Being a post-grad and receiving that first loan-payment invoice in the mail?  It’s heartbreaking, and stressful, and infuriating, and emotions I don’t have words for.  When I received my first statement last week, I curled up on my living room floor, did the math on what I make vs. what I have to pay each month, and then I cried.  I cried because I knew this was coming, but I honest-to-God did not realize how awful and hard it would be.  I cried because I was told I’d have more time to pay this debt off, and so a non-negotiable equal-to-my-rent-each-month amount of money was scarier than the new season of American Horror Story.

So I can definitely relate to this post Val wrote on being crippled by debt before we’re even old enough to realize the effects of debt. Yes, as my roommate pointed out, we all knew this was coming.  We were told we’d have to pay these loans back one day, and it’s not as though I spent the last four years in some blissful ignorance about the amount of money piling up for me to pay back.  But I promise you – there is no way to prepare someone for this.  There is nothing you can say to a college student that will properly warn them, or ensure that when they graduate they aren’t shocked.  You will be shocked, and you will be heartbroken, and when you call your loan company all they will say is “yeahhh….we don’t really care what your income is…”.  /endrant

// Speaking of all that loan debt and of starting a full-time job in the city, and then Paralegal classes on top of that, life is getting pretty stressful lately.  So this post Crystal wrote on using creative writing as a form of stress-relief really spoke to me on a level I can understand.  And by that I mean, a level that does not involve exercise, because no.

  • Marielle

    Thanks for the mention :) And ah, I feel you on the loans. Knowing we have to pay them back isn’t the same as knowing how much per month…and I had such vague ideas about real life employment when I was in college. There’s just definitely something wrong with the higher education system. Ugh. Good luck with all that’s going on!

    • Kiersten McMonagle

      EXACTLY! It’s not like I was delusional about the money I was taking out, but actually seeing that number on a bill is SO different from “knowing” that you’re going to have to pay it back. I agree – if college can be free in other countries, why are we putting ourselves into ENORMOUS debt before we’re even living on our own?

  • Daisy @ Simplicity Relished

    This is a wonderful list, Kiersten, thanks so much for including me. Love your last line– exercise is definitely a stress-inducing activity for me. Also, I feel you on the loans too; I’ve had some friends struggle with serious debt (not so much from education) and it’s a tough journey. Best of luck my friend– I believe in you!

    • Kiersten McMonagle

      Of course – I loved reading your post! And yeah…I really wish I were the type of person who enjoyed exercise but I just really don’t, and I have so much trouble making myself do it so I usually don’t. It’s something I definitely need to work on! And thank you! I know I’ll figure it out, it’s just so frustrating right now!

  • Danielle @ The-Lifestyle-Prj

    I was very fortunate not to graduate with any debt, but my husband has THOUSANDS racked up and what’s his is mine, right? :S I know that soul-crushing sinking feeling you’re talking about and wish you the very best with figuring out a solution!

    • Kiersten McMonagle

      Yeah I feel like that probably affects you, too. Although at least you don’t both have it, right? And thank you!