Friday Favorites, vol. 21


// I love this post on How to be a Heroine that Marielle and Katie wrote.  You know the type of heroine they’re talking about – the Hollywood-made woman who exists solely to be saved by the real hero – a man.  And while we’re on the subject of heros,  Shannon wrote a fantastic post on representation and how important it is, on the basis that in 30,000 years of the media-popularized hero, how many females have you seen?

// Especially as bloggers, social media has become a huge part of all of our lives.  I know I check my Twitter from morning till night, including sometimes in the middle of the night when I wake up and realize I have five notifications waiting for me.  So I love this social media detox that Daisy suggested to help revive ourselves and our online lives.  Not only do I think this will make me a happier, more present person, but also it’s a great way of making myself schedule posts in advance, and work on blogging-related social media when I have to.

// Being a post-grad and receiving that first loan-payment invoice in the mail?  It’s heartbreaking, and stressful, and infuriating, and emotions I don’t have words for.  When I received my first statement last week, I curled up on my living room floor, did the math on what I make vs. what I have to pay each month, and then I cried.  I cried because I knew this was coming, but I honest-to-God did not realize how awful and hard it would be.  I cried because I was told I’d have more time to pay this debt off, and so a non-negotiable equal-to-my-rent-each-month amount of money was scarier than the new season of American Horror Story.

So I can definitely relate to this post Val wrote on being crippled by debt before we’re even old enough to realize the effects of debt. Yes, as my roommate pointed out, we all knew this was coming.  We were told we’d have to pay these loans back one day, and it’s not as though I spent the last four years in some blissful ignorance about the amount of money piling up for me to pay back.  But I promise you – there is no way to prepare someone for this.  There is nothing you can say to a college student that will properly warn them, or ensure that when they graduate they aren’t shocked.  You will be shocked, and you will be heartbroken, and when you call your loan company all they will say is “yeahhh….we don’t really care what your income is…”.  /endrant

// Speaking of all that loan debt and of starting a full-time job in the city, and then Paralegal classes on top of that, life is getting pretty stressful lately.  So this post Crystal wrote on using creative writing as a form of stress-relief really spoke to me on a level I can understand.  And by that I mean, a level that does not involve exercise, because no.

Friday Favorites, Vol. 20

Friday Favorites vol.20

// The WEEKEND! I have never appreciated two days in a row off as much as I do right now.  I absolutely LOVE my job, but the commute means that I leave at 6:40AM and don’t get home till 7 or 7:30 most nights.  I’ve barely gotten anything done these last couple weeks, and I’m looking forward to having a couple days to catch up on sleep, blogging, schoolwork, and relaxing!

// Reading this post from Alicia on rediscovering herself and treating her body better was so inspiring.  I’ve always been a pretty unhealthy eater, and my sneakers probably forget what the inside of a gym looks like, but since I’ve started working in an office I can see how much worse my eating habits have gotten.  Plus, since I’m not waitressing anymore, I’m not as active as I have been for the last few years.  Alicia and Nadine both have amazing tips on getting healthier – both mindfully, and physically.

// Becca asks the difficult blogger question of whether or not numbers matter, and I love her answer.  This is a morally-loaded question that all of us bloggers deal with on more than one occasion, and you’ll see different kinds of advice on both ends.  I love Becca’s matter-of-fact way of saying that yes, it matters, but it shouldn’t be the only thing that matters.

// Mad Men.  I think I enjoy it as a study of the communicative behavior of 1950’s-era men and women, because I’m more fascinated by the incredibly insulting and derogatory language and behaviors than I am amused.  Somehow, I can’t stop watching, so there must be some reason.

// This post on bad relationship advice from Katie. Yes, yes, and yes! Once you’ve been single for a few months years, you start to hear the phrase “when you stop looking for it, it will come” a hundred different times in a hundred different variations.  It. gets. old.  And besides that, it’s not even realistic.  Why, when we’re told to work for everything else in life, do we have this prevailing view as a society that the universe is going to reward our apathy regarding relationships with just that: a relationship? It’s totally ridiculous, and I’m with Katie that it’s awful advice.

So what about you?  What are you loving this week – I love sharing!

Friday Favorites, vol. 19

Friday Favorites

// Taylor and I are working together to bring you our Top Blogger Mistakes.  Which of these have you made, or is it just us?

// Melyssa is accepting paid contributors on The Nectar Collective, and I probably couldn’t be any more excited about that! If you love writing, or have a background in journalism then you should really go apply as soon as possible!

// I started reading Station Eleven this week, and it’s the first book in a while that’s really captured me.  I’ve been struggling lately with finding a book that I absolutely love, and that I don’t get bored of…I’m not sure why.  But I came across an article last week with a bunch of book suggestions, and Station Eleven was on there as the dystopian novel you don’t want to miss.

And since I know you’re already having visions of another Hunger Games / Divergent / The Giver / every-other-young-adult-book-in-the-past-three-years, let me just tell you that Station Eleven is not at all what you’re picturing.  The book takes place in two different “worlds” – the one pre-Georgian Flu, and the one that comes 20 years after the flu has killed most of the world’s population.  The writing is incredible, and aside from being an entertaining read, it’s incredibly thought-provoking.

// While we’re on the topic of books, has anyone else heard of Hogwarts School of Prayers and Miracles?  Because while “favorite” might not be a word I’d use to describe this particular situation, I’m just in shock.

If you haven’t heard, a Christian mother whose children wanted to read Harry Potter decided to rewrite the series sans magic, fearing that reading the originals would turn her children into satanists or witches.  All I have to say about that particular sentiment is that she must not have actually read the books if she thinks that they are in any way satanic or evil or capable of turning her children into witches.

So…what are you loving this week?

Friday Favorites: What I’m Loving this Week

Friday Favorites

It’s the end of the blogging week around here, and that means time for one of my favorite posts to write – Friday Favorites, where I tell you all the things and links I’ve been loving this week!

// The fact that I’m finally able to join (what seems like) the rest of blogland in using Plugins, now that I have WordPress.   If it’s a switch you’re considering making, I 110% suggest hiring Lisette to do it for you.  There is no way I could have made this transfer by myself without losing basically my entire blog in the process, and Lisette was amazing to work with.                         And speaking of Plugins…what are some of your favorites?

//I absolutely LOVED this post Whitney wrote on the type of friend she wants to be.  These are all qualities I’d hope that my friends could say I have, and which I look for in my friends.

// This really important reminder from Katie.  It’s so easy in blogging to get wrapped up in the success your favorite bloggers seem to be experiencing, especially if one of those bloggers is someone who started at the same time as you and seems to have SO many more followers.  But this isn’t a competition, and another blogger’s success is not your failure – instead, it is a chance to congratulate a friend who is doing great, and to set goals for yourself and your blog.

// Pumpkin spice hot chocolate.  I know you’re all probably so sick of hearing about pumpkin spice lattes, but that’s why I’m not bringing those up (well, that and I don’t drink coffee).  A couple of weeks ago, my roommate told me I could have the barista at Starbucks put pumpkin spice into whatever drink I wanted.  Cue my new love affair with pumpkin spice hot chocolate.

pumpkin spice


// Today is my last day at my current (part-time) job, which means that starting Monday I’ll be working full-time in the city! This is something I’ve held off on sharing, because I didn’t want to talk about it online too much before I was finished with my current job.                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I was so lucky to find a job that I loved right out of college, but unfortunately it was only part-time, and once I stopped waitressing about a month ago I knew it was time to find something with more hours.  I couldn’t be more excited about this new position – everyone I’ve met is so nice, and it’s a career (paralegal work) I’m really excited to be getting into!  Wish me luck?


So what about you? What are your Friday Favorites this week?

Friday Favorites

// The #BlissChat Twitter chat (Thursday nights at 9pm EST).  Last night was my first time “attending” and I’m so glad I did, because it’s filled with a group of wonderful bloggers! I really enjoyed the conversations we had, and I’m definitely loving Twitter Chats in general now!

// As an employee in a small law firm (at least for one more week), I take most lunches alone.  I love my solo lunch break, because as an introvert, it gives me time to relax and unwind before the second half of the work day. Mo wrote a great post on why solo lunches aren’t a bad thing, and even if you love being in the company of people all the time, it can be good to go out by yourself and refresh sometimes.

// I’m finally making the switch to WordPress! It’s an idea I’ve been playing with for a while now, and the other day I finally made the jump and contacted Lisette from High Note Designs to do the transfer for me.  Now I just need to figure out how WordPress works, because I’m going to miss knowing at least the basic design elements and how to tweak things that Blogger offers, since I’ve been using it for so long… Any tips?

// I always seem to have one or two songs that I absolutely love at one time, and write now that song is Take Me to Church by Hozier. #obsessed

// After reading this post from Shannon on what topics and themes she most loves to write about, I spent the next hour or two reading through basically all of her posts.  I basically loved all of them, because she makes incredible points and in such an eloquent way, but I’m linking back to this original post because it made me think about what themes I cover here on She is Fierce.

I’ve been thinking lately about how much of my posts seem to focus on feminism, inspiration, and blogging and I started to worry that maybe I’ve written too much on these subjects.  After reading her post though I realized that in fact, this is a good thing, because it gives my blog a niche so that people can know what to expect when they come here.

So what about you?  What are your topics on your blog?  Do you think it’s a good or a bad thing to have a few topics you focus on above others?

Friday Favorites

Favorite Internet Finds
My favorite part about Fridays….okay, let’s not get ahead of ourselves here.  ONE of my favorite things about Fridays is getting the chance to share some of my favorite internet finds with you guys from the last seven days!

// Yesterday was the second ever F-Word Link-Up hosted by Marielle and I, and I’m loving the amazing posts that have been linked up so far!  But if you haven’t had a chance yet, don’t think you have to wait until October to join in on the feminist fun! We’re taking links until Thursday of next week, so you’ve got plenty of time to link up your favorite feminist post from the archives, or something more recent!

If you want to learn more about the link-up, or just check out some of the amazing posts people have linked up, check out the post I wrote yesterday on why catcalling is not a compliment.

// Have you seen this Guide to Catcalling from Playboy yet? It’s a must read, and it’s made into a super simply infographic/flow-chart!

// As part of yesterday’s link-up, Lulu shared her favorite 11 feminist videos on Youtube.  I’d seen this one before, but I was so glad she shared it because it’s one of my absolute favorite spoken word pieces.

// I loved this post from Emily on making SEO simple enough to use with your blog.  She breaks it down so that it’s crazy simple, so that the really confusing topic of what Search Engine Optimization is and how to use it with your blog makes sense!

// TweetDeck!  Last night was my first experience with a Twitter Chat, and for the first 20 minutes before someone mentioned this amazing plug-in, I was totally lost trying to refresh the page often enough to keep up.

Mimi mentioned TweetDeck when the topic of scheduling social media came up, and while I’ll probably stick to Hootsuite for that, I love that TweetDeck lets me keep up with a bunch of different Twitter feeds all at once!

Friday Favorites

// This article Ashley wrote on why, despite some of our downfalls, the Millenials are a pretty great group of people.  Our generation has been a bit of a scape goat lately, even so far as that Time has written an entire issue on us.  Older generations make the point that we’re lazy, unmotivated, and expect everything to be handed to us as soon as we want it.  While I do agree that we have a tendency to want things now and lack the supposed virtue of patience, there are some pretty fantastic things our generation bring to the table, that for the most part are overlooked.  
// I know this is an unpopular opinion, but I love Taylor Swift’s new song, Shake it Off.  I’ve read a lot of comments and articles about why people believe that the video is racially unacceptable and that Taylor Swift is trying to be Miley Cyrus.  
I typically hate when people say this, and generally don’t agree: but in this particular case, I feel like a lot of people are looking for something to be angry about.  Or maybe I’m just not seeing what others are.  But the way I watched the video, there were seven (?) different forms of dance, twerking among them.  It would have been strange to not include a form of dance which is so at the forefront of pop culture right now.  
The fact that Swift is participating is not her making fun, encouraging racist labels, or anything else.  She is acting the same way she did with the break dancing, ballet, interpretive dance, cheerleading, and so on: as though she doesn’t know what she’s doing.  And that’s the entire point.  I frankly would have found it insulting if twerking were the one form she didn’t include, or if she were somehow absent from that scene.  What sense would that have made?
And for the record, I find it kind of sad and culturally depressing that our society acts as though Niki Minaj and Miley Cyrus somehow own twerking.  It’s a form of dance, and anyone should have a right to it without being told that it’s racist of them.  This article does a far better job than me at discussing this point, so with that, I’ll step off my soap box.  
// This beautiful post from Kenzie on why, even though most of us do it, we should stop judging single mothers for the mere fact of their being single.  We all know how difficult parenthood is, whether from personal experience or hearing/reading about it from others who are dealing with it.  Particularly in blogging, the ups and downs and absolute hard times of being a mother are always at the forefront.  So it stands to reason that if a woman (or a man, for that matter) is doing it entirely by herself, it’s that much harder.  The mere fact of her being single does not make a women a horrible mother, and the mere fact of having a husband does not make a woman mother of the year.  
// If you’ve never had to deal with depression on a personal level, it can be incredibly difficult to understand what it means and how it feels to live with it.  It’s incredibly easy to dismiss a person saying they are depressed as seeking attention or over-reacting to a few bad days, but that’s not what it is at all.  Laura does a wonderful job of summarizing what it’s like to live with this disease.  
// And because most of what I shared today was on the deeper / harder to digest side, I leave you to enjoy your long weekend with this.
So, what are you loving this week? Any great articles, or gorgeous photos to share?

Friday Favorites

// Fantastic neighbors who, despite never having really met you, spend an hour helping you get a bat out of your living room at nearly midnight.
// This article Hayley wrote on why it’s important to be nice to everyone, especially people working in customer service jobs like retail and waitressing.  I spent three years waitressing, and trust me when I say how much a rude customer can turn your night around.  A simply “I’m good, how are you?” instead of “I’ll take a coke please” makes a world of difference.
// Iron & Wine’s cover of Love Vigilantes.  Seriously guys, I’m listening on repeat.  It’s a problem.  

// This USA Today article my uncle sent me.  No matter what you might think (or insist upon telling me): catcalls are not flattering.  I do not walk away feeling complimented when you yell “hey sexy” out of your moving vehicle on the highway.  (honestly, what’s the desired end result? Me writing down your license plate number and tracking you down to say thank you?)
And I think you’re all well aware that it’s not flattering.  You do it because you can, because on some level (whether or not you even realize it) it’s an assertion of your power over women: you can do it, we can’t.  But I think I’m getting into a rant for another day. 

So what about you? What are you loving this week?

Friday Favorites

// Are you just starting out in the blog world? Jana from Life Could Be a Dream has an article on the five things every blog needs

// This article from Ciera to help you get started with your blog or shop newsletter

// This post Vivian shared on This Flooded Sky about all the doors of Germany.  I love getting to see the country from a lens you don’t normally get to!

// I love this post on being “basic” from Hello Rigby!

// Yesterday, I talked about the fact that depression can be a tricky subject, and one that not many people understand.  Even if you don’t though, there are things you can do to help someone feel a little better, or to help yourself feel a little better.  This is a great article from Melyssa at The Nectar Collective

// “Writing is not a matter of time, but a matter of space.” – Katerina Klemer

// This cute way of documenting all the places you’ve been from Studio All Day

So what are you loving this week?

Friday Favorites

// This Twitter chain of people’s favorite bloggers.  I posed the question earlier this week, and have been loving the responses I’ve gotten!

// This fantastic inspirational series from Clear the Way.  I’m seriously in love guys, and you need to go check it out! (and while you’re at it, basically just check out everything from Kate, because she’s awesome!)

// This post from mine and Marielle’s first every F-Word Link Up.  Every post linked up was fantastic, but I loved that Kasey covered a topic which is usually completely fazed over in feminist conversations. (and if you didn’t get a chance to link up yesterday, you still have until Thursday to get your post up!)

// The book The Bitch in the House.  I finished this collection of short stories recently, and loved every minute of it!  Definitely a must read book :)

// Speaking of books, Goodreads is quickly becoming one of my favorite social media sites!  Let’s be friends :)

// The atmosphere in Philadelphia.  While I was in the city the other day, I was walking past the Schuylkyll and listening to a man playing the saxophone.  It’s just such an incredible feeling to be surrounded by that.
// Crochet! I’ve been getting back into it lately, and it’s just such a relaxing activity while I’m watching television or getting ready for bed.  Do you crochet or knit?

So what about you?  What are you loving this week?